Monday, November 16, 2009

Transforming "Don't Wants" into "Do Wants"

by Julia D. Stege, MFA
The Magical Marketer

Have you ever noticed how difficult it is to get what you want when you're trying to fix what's wrong? The thing we sometimes forget is that along with personal choice come a myriad of options we don't want. That doesn't mean we need to spend our lives fixing or changing the things we disdain.

Those things we don't want are there to help us choose what we DO want. It's only through contrast that we can even begin to define what is perfect for us.

So the next time you're faced with someone doing or being some way you don't like, notice it and how it makes you feel. Notice the reaction in your body, for instance a contraction or queasy feeling, or hot flush in the face, etc. Give it a little space, but not too much. The point is to become conscious of what we don't want, but not to wallow in self-pity!

As soon as you feel ready, write down the aspect that you didn't like. Then next to it write the opposite.

For Example: Someone tells you they think your rates are too high. This makes you feel insecure, insulted, and scared about the future.

Write down the negative aspect:

"People don't want to pay me what I'm worth."

Then write the opposite quality you would prefer next to it.

"I consistently attract customers who have plenty of money and happily pay me my best rates."

For extra umph, you could include "They tell me I'm worth every penny!"

Transforming your "dis-likes" this way will help you to line up with what you want and allow it to come to you more quickly. Write down your new affirmation on a sticky note and post it where you can see it.

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