Friday, October 23, 2009

How Did You Attract THAT Person?

by Julia D. Stege, MFA

You know it happens to all of us. It's just a part of life. You think you are doing very well at attraction, and then suddenly someone appears in your life who is just NOT a match. You ask yourself (perhaps in a whiny tone) "How did I attract THAT?"

The answer is simple as long as you believe you are the one who is attracting everything that comes into your life. I mean, you are the only one you have any control over, right? So if you look at it that way, the answer is you brought this person into your life to show you what is not perfect for you, so you can adjust yourself appropriately to attract what you DO want.

So let's say you attracted a client who followed you around while you work, checking on everything you do. I once attracted a client who insisted on hanging over my shoulder while I created her logo design. That was the last time I let anyone do that, and if you look at it a certain way, you can see how she saved me a lot of frustration over the years since then. I was really clear on what I didn't want, someone checking me at every turn. So the question became, what do I really want? I wanted clients who really respect my work and leave me to do it in peace. That is who I have attracted since then, and I thank her now for helping me to know what I want.

But what if they're not just persnickety? What if they are really in your face?

OK, so you attracted a bi-polar neighbor who shouts at you whenever you leave your front door. What's that about? You think, "I'm a nice person, why is he shouting at me?" But that question will not lead you to a solution. It will only perplex your mind and cause you to focus more upon it and attract more of it.

Your only real power is focusing on what you'd prefer, and letting it go to the universe.

Stop resisting it! In fact, see if you can find the up-side of it.

A friend of mine was once faced with his second custody battle in 2 years. He was not much of a fighter, and we spoke about how he could look at this as a positive thing. "It will give me a chance to defend myself in public," he offered. So that's how he held it in his mind. He stopped resisting.

Guess what happened? His ex-wife didn't even show up at court. That is the power of letting go.

When faced with someone in your space who is making you miserable, write down the elements that are bugging you, and then write down the opposite element, that which you would like to attract. And for extra credit, see if you can write a statement about the positive aspects of this situation, hold that in your heart, and tell me what happens!

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1 comment:

  1. perfect timing with this article, julia! thanks.